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The Head Blogstress in Charge

FOR THE RECORD FELLAS

4/15/2015

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I do not typically do a lot of man bashing or coming for the fellas but now that I have been single for [ugh] months now I am starting to realize why so often women do [bash men]. I do not know if it is the fault of us women accepting half ass efforts or if it is the men who are okay with offering up mediocrity that makes the dating pool a friggin joke. So just to clear the air I want to simply place a couple of things on the table for the gents; feast on this.

For the record – If you live with your girlfriend, wife or a woman who thinks she is your girlfriend or your wife it is an insult for you to think that I want to be your side piece. There is nothing flattering about being secondary to a woman who you have already placed first. And, more importantly, it sounds dumb to be second to a woman that you allegedly “don’t want to be with”. I am going to piss some of the ladies off but errrr ummm the type of women who are okay with this behavior typically have some type of self esteem issues that blind them to the ridiculousness of it all. SooOOoooOOoo essentially what you are saying when you approach me is that I have no self worth, no self value, my esteem is low and I am the perfect target for your bullshit. Bye boy!

For the record – If I have a house, a car, a job and my lights click on that means I have my own shit. That does not make me a unicorn but it does make me non–dependent. So without your house, your car or your money my world will continue to rotate [teeth suck]. Keeping that in mind, what do you really bring to the table? It is stability? Is it companionship? Is it drama? Is it lies? Is it misrepresentation? OooOooooOOh, or is it some good dick [blank stare]? Well, at the risk of redundancy, good dick does not make you a unicorn either [lip curl]. What else you got? 

For the record – Not every woman you meet wants to be your wife. That premature nuptial talk is for amateurs; women who are still buying into the fantasy. Again, I may step on some toes here but errrrr ummmm I think that a woman of substance and of a certain caliber is not looking to be your wife until she determines that you know how to be her friend. I mean I love men but [doggone it] not every man I meet is my knight in shining armor.  Some of y'all are simply fools wrapped in tin foil. Geeeeeze Louise, I did say "some". 

For the record – Meet me and treat me like you would want the next man to treat your mom, your sister and/or your daughter. Here’s a thought, would you want any of the important women in your life to date a man exactly [and I mean exactly] like you? 


Okay, carry on!


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7 Comments
NickieLove 2 Run
4/15/2015 09:38:02 pm

LOVE IT!!! Thank you!

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India Trotter link
4/15/2015 09:59:04 pm

I am glad that you enjoyed it!!!! Thanks for reading!!!

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Lisa
4/15/2015 11:41:37 pm

This was great!!

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India Trotter link
4/16/2015 12:12:49 am

Thanks!!!... And thanks for reading!!!!

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Lee
4/16/2015 09:59:48 am

Well said!!!

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India Trotter
4/16/2015 11:33:15 am

Thanks Lee!!!!!

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Tonii Waymon
12/10/2015 12:12:43 pm

Well said, I feel the same way from the beginning to the ending of your article God Bless!

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    India L. Trotter

    India Trotter is founder of Blank Stare Corner. She is no stranger to freelance article and online writing. She writes as she speaks so to draw you in; touching on topics of everyday life, personal growth and emotional development. A long time native Philly resident who was raised in San Diego, California - She shows a bi-coastal way of thinking; more like, a beach bum attitude with an East Coast edge. She has a degree in Business Administration but in her mind that equates to a degree in Psychology [blank stare]. Her advice and rhetoric comes from life experience and common sense; which is apparently not so common. She writes the blog the Pointed Circle featured on www.GirlTiniLive.com and tune in to hear her co-host the online radio show GirlTiniLive Uncensored. She is also the Philadelphia Frugal Living Examiner for Examiner.com.

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