Paying Etiquette: Who Picks Up The Check?
Written by Madeline Murphy
Courtesy: http://www.askmen.com
One of the touchiest dating issues today has to do with money: Who pays, the man or the woman, and when? Once you're knee-deep into a relationship, you'll have worked out what is best for you as a couple, but in the meantime, it's tough to know what's expected of you.
Typically, men today are put into a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation.
Some women are insulted if men always insist on paying. It may make them feel as if they are being bought or patronized, as if they can't afford to pay their own way.
On the other hand, if men don't offer to pay instantly, some women will think that they're just being cheap or ungentlemanly.
It simplifies things once you realize that, when it comes to money issues, there are only three possibilities:
you should always pay...
On First Dates
First impressions are important — on most first dates, your best bet is to make the first move when the bill comes, and if she shows no sign of resistance, go for it. This goes not just for the very first date, but throughout the early stages of the relationship. Paying for things is not just the gentlemanly thing to do, it also indicates that you are responsible, steady and well-established. Women like that; it helps them decide whether or not you are relationship-ready.
If You Asked Her Out
A good general rule when it comes to these situations is to ask yourself, "Who asked who?" If you instigated the date, then you will be expected to pay. In fact, it's good to be prepared to pay, regardless. Nothing looks more pathetic than a guy's sheepish expression when he doesn't have enough money with him to cover the charges; and in today's world of credit and debit cards, this shouldn't be an issue.
On Special Occasions
For special events, such as your anniversary, her birthday, holiday dinners or even just to spontaneously celebrate her achievements — like being hired for a new job or getting into law school, for example — you should offer to pay. First of all, it makes you appear gracious and classy. Second, it's a great way to show her how proud you are of her. Just remember that the key is in the delivery; don't make a big show of your largesse by letting her know how much a meal cost. What a tacky move! Simply smile and say, "This one's on me, honey."
Find out when she should pay and when you should split it down the middle...
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Written by Madeline Murphy
Courtesy: http://www.askmen.com
One of the touchiest dating issues today has to do with money: Who pays, the man or the woman, and when? Once you're knee-deep into a relationship, you'll have worked out what is best for you as a couple, but in the meantime, it's tough to know what's expected of you.
Typically, men today are put into a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation.
Some women are insulted if men always insist on paying. It may make them feel as if they are being bought or patronized, as if they can't afford to pay their own way.
On the other hand, if men don't offer to pay instantly, some women will think that they're just being cheap or ungentlemanly.
It simplifies things once you realize that, when it comes to money issues, there are only three possibilities:
- You are expected to pay
- She is expected to pay
- Both parties should split the bill down the middle
you should always pay...
On First Dates
First impressions are important — on most first dates, your best bet is to make the first move when the bill comes, and if she shows no sign of resistance, go for it. This goes not just for the very first date, but throughout the early stages of the relationship. Paying for things is not just the gentlemanly thing to do, it also indicates that you are responsible, steady and well-established. Women like that; it helps them decide whether or not you are relationship-ready.
If You Asked Her Out
A good general rule when it comes to these situations is to ask yourself, "Who asked who?" If you instigated the date, then you will be expected to pay. In fact, it's good to be prepared to pay, regardless. Nothing looks more pathetic than a guy's sheepish expression when he doesn't have enough money with him to cover the charges; and in today's world of credit and debit cards, this shouldn't be an issue.
On Special Occasions
For special events, such as your anniversary, her birthday, holiday dinners or even just to spontaneously celebrate her achievements — like being hired for a new job or getting into law school, for example — you should offer to pay. First of all, it makes you appear gracious and classy. Second, it's a great way to show her how proud you are of her. Just remember that the key is in the delivery; don't make a big show of your largesse by letting her know how much a meal cost. What a tacky move! Simply smile and say, "This one's on me, honey."
Find out when she should pay and when you should split it down the middle...
Read the rest of the article about when she should pay and when to go dutch....